Why do I Keep Comparing Myself to His New Girlfriend and How do I Stop doing It?

Breakups are painful.

It doesn’t matter if the relationship lasted years or months; things always seem to finish in an unpleasant and sad way.

The discomfort fades over time, and things begin to return to normal. And then, just when you think you’ve got everything under control, you find out that your ex-boyfriend has a new girlfriend.

And that’s when you start remembering things you thought you’d forgotten about.

It’s difficult not to snoop on this new person who has entered your ex’s life’s social media profiles and question, “Wasn’t I enough?”

They begin their daily Instagram reviews, the calculations of when they could have started dating, who was the first to like me… The craziness continues.

This is when the slurs and insults start flying. You have no idea who that woman is, but you’re comparing yourself to what you can picture of her feigned happiness on social media.

What makes you so perverse? I believe it stems from a sense of insecurity and a lack of self-esteem. But don’t worry; today we’ll learn why we compare ourselves to our ex-girlfriends’ girlfriends and how to stop.

Why do You Compare Yourself to Her if It doesn’t Make You Feel Good?

All of this is more about you than it is about her. Even if your ex is currently dating a man, you will find excuses to compare your legs to his.

You compare yourself to your ex’s new partner because you want to be the only one for him, and because you can’t, you want to be the best of them all.

All of your comparisons stem from the fact that you don’t feel as spectacular and unique as you should, and you rely on others’ approval to feel good.

We usually don’t know he’s broken up with us until we see him with someone new. We examine his appearance first, then his behavior and how our ex treats his new girlfriend, as though we want to know if he is happy with her than he was with us.

When you feel yourself comparing your life to his, think of something you’re proud of, such as something you’ve accomplished at work or the kitten you’ve recently acquired.

It’s not who she’s dating right now that matters, but how you value yourself. And this is something you should begin doing right away.

What do You See in Her That You did not See in Me?

Assume you are objectively superior to your ex-girlfriend. That doesn’t always imply that you’re the best fit for him.

It was for a reason that you broke up. Don’t get too caught up in the details; some people aren’t meant to be together at that precise time.

That is not to say that you will not meet in a few years and be able to give each other all you haven’t been able to give each other today. Perhaps you now understand each other like you’ve never understood one other before, and you can see why you couldn’t get along before. Whether we like it or not, we must now look forward and continue to evolve.

How to Stop Thinking about Them?

You’ve formed a bad habit, therefore treat it as such.

Don’t look for your ex on Facebook, and don’t follow her on Instagram. I’m avoiding all interaction. Whatever it takes, do it.

You don’t have to be with someone else to forget about him. Right now, it’s more crucial than ever that you begin to love yourself.

I know it’s the most difficult thing to do right now, but it’ll be well worth it. It only takes a little willpower.

Remember that you aren’t with him for some reason while you’re feeling down.

You are not the same person you were ten years ago. We are shaped by our experiences in life, and we go through numerous stages. This need a variety of partners. If you accept that this is how life works, you’ll see that there are no victories here; it’s all about compatibility for different life moments.

It’s impossible to forget someone, especially when you see how happy they are with their new relationship. But don’t overlook the most crucial:

The Best Revenge is to Be Happy

The more you concentrate on moving forward in your life, the less interested you get in what your ex is doing. You are enough on your own; you don’t need anyone else to be happy, and you are wonderful just the way you are.

You would still be together if I had been the selected one. You require something different in your life right now, and you will recognize it when you see it.